My Mistake

The Bean has been learning hand work.  She is very excited.  What she really wants is to learn to sew, knit and crochet.  But we are starting small.  Her fine motor dexterity is not fine enough for anything complicated yet. So, we started with sewing quilt squares, and weaving on our pot holder loom.

We got started, and I showed her how to thread up the loom and draw the hook through with the yarn weaving in and out.  And then, she started making mistakes!  I knew it was coming, and at first, I prompted her to fix it.  But I wasn't enjoying that process, and neither was she.  Finally, I stopped insisting that each row be perfect and let her simply do it.

Two rows later, she was able to see that she had made a mistake.  She hadn't been able to find the mistakes when I was the one finding them, but left alone for 2 rows, she found them.  I showed her how to correct it.  A few rows later, she was finding and fixing the mistakes herself.  By the time she was done, her rows were perfect.

Amazing that I thought I had to teach her.  She knew how to figure it out all by herself!  My mistake.

She also took the pictures.

Papa, the Pancake Artist

Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: Kids in the Kitchen
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how kids get involved in cooking and feeding. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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We have a fabulous weekend tradition at our house.  Every weekend, I sleep in.  Ok, not quite the 10:00 rolling out after a lovely uninterrupted stretch of having a bed all to myself that I used to relish, but when the Bean is up by 7, the Bug by 7:15 and Squeaker by 7:30, Papa entertains them downstairs while I snooze.  But that's not the best part.  Ok, I know it sounds like the best part, but it really isn't.

Next is pancakes and waffles!  Mmmm!  Every weekend, Papa makes a triple batch of allergen friendly waffles and pancakes.  We all eat as much as we want for breakfast the first day, and freeze the rest for breakfasts throughout the week.  On days when Papa is feeling especially wonderful, he sprinkles chocolate chips on my waffles.  And on the most wonderful days, he serves said chocolate chip waffles in bed!  But, that's not the best part.

The best part is when Papa takes custom orders for pancakes from the Bean and the Bug.  The Littles climb into the red kitchen chair, and think up whatever shape sounds like fun - and Papa draws it in pancake batter, making anything requested.  See, for example, this pancake horse.

We've had hearts, squares, blobs, tractors, houses, horses, pumpkins, and even the occasional circle!  And THAT is the best part of weekend mornings.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

• Baking & letting go — Cooking with kids can be a mess. Nadia at Red White & GREEN Mom is learning to relax, be patient, and have fun with the process.
• Family feeding in Child of Mine — Lauren at Hobo Mama reviews Ellyn Satter's suggestions for appropriate feeding and points out where her family has problems following through.
• Children with Knives! (And other Kitchen Tools) — Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy teaches her children how to safely use knives.
• "Mommy, Can I Help?" — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment writes about how she lets her kiddos help out with cooking, despite her {sometimes} lack of patience!
• Solids the Second Time Around — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes recounts her experiences introducing solids to her second child.
• The Adventure of Toddler Tastebuds — The Accidental Natural Mama shares a few things that helped her daughter develop an adventurous palate.
• A Tradition of Love — Kelly at Becoming Crunchy looks forward to sharing the kitchen traditions passed on from her mom and has already found several ways to involve baby in the kitchen.
• The Very Best Classroom — Alicia C. at McCrenshaw's Newest Thoughts reveals how her kitchen is more than a place to make food - it's a classroom!
• Raising Little Chefs — Chef Mike guest posts on Natural Parents Network about how he went from a guy who couldn't cook to a chef who wanted to teach his boys to know how the food we love is made.
• In the Kitchen with my kids — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine shares a delicious soup recipe that her kids love.
• Papa, the Pancake Artist — Papa's making an incredible breakfast over at Our Mindful Life.
• Kids won't eat salad? Try this one! — Tat at Mum in Search is sharing her children's favourite salad recipe.
• Recipe For a Great Relationship — Cooking with kids is about feeding hearts as well as bellies, writes Hannah at Wild Parenting.
• The Ritual of Mealtimes — Syenna at Gently Parenting Twins writes about the significance of mealtimes in her family’s daily rhythm.
• Kid, Meet Food. Food, Kid. — Alburnet at What's Next? panicks about passing on her food "issues" to her offspring.
• Growing Up in the Kitchen — Cassie at There's a Pickle in My Life shares how her son is growing up in the kitchen.
• Harvesting Corn and History — From Kenna at School Garden Year: The kids in the school garden harvest their corn and learn how much history grows in their food.
• My Guiding Principles for Teaching my Child about Food — Tree at Mom Grooves uses these guiding principles to give her daughter a love of good food and an understanding of nutrition as well as to empower her to make the best choices for her body.
• Kitchen Control — Amanda at Let's Take the Metro writes about her struggles to relinquish control in the kitchen to her children.
• Food — Emma at Your Fonder Heart lets her seven month old teach her how to feed a baby.
• Kitchen Fun? — Adrienne at Mommying My Way questions how much fun she can have in a non-functional kitchen, while trying to remain positive about the blessings of cooking for her family.
• Kitchen Adventures — Erica at ChildOrganics shares fun ways to connect with your kids in the kitchen.
• Kids in the Kitchen: Finding the Right Tools — Melissa at Vibrant Wanderings shares some of her favorite child-sized kitchen gadgets and where to find them.
• The Kitchen Classroom — Laura at Authentic Parenting knows that everything your kids want to learn is at the end of the ladle.
• Kids in the Kitchen — Luschka from Diary of a First Child talks about the role of the kitchen in family communication and shares fun kitchen activities for the under two.
• Our Kitchen is an Unschooling Classroom. — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle explores the many ways her kitchen has become a rich environment for learning.
• Montessori-Inspired Food Preparation for Preschoolers — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares lots of resources for using Montessori food preparation activities for young children in the kitchen.
• My Little Healthy Eater — Christine at African Babies Don't Cry shares her research on what is the best first food for babies, and includes a healthy and yummy breakfast recipe.
• Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe for Disaster? — MudpieMama shares all about her fears, joys and discoveries when the boys and handsome hubby took over the kitchen.
• Food choices, Food treats — Henrietta at Angel Wings and Herb Tea shares her family's relationship with food.
• learning to eat — Catherine at learner mummy reflects on little M's first adventures with food.
• The Night My 7-Year-Old Made Dinner — Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite! shares how her 7-year-old daughter surprised everyone by turning what started as an idea to play restaurant into pulling off making supper for her family.
• Cooking With a High-Needs Toddler — Sylvia at MaMammalia describes how Montessori-inspired activities and a bit of acceptance have helped her overcome hurdles in cooking while caring for a "high-needs" child.
• Kids in the Kitchen – teaching healthy food choices — Brenna at Almost All The Truth shares her belief in the importance of getting kids into the kitchen using her favorite cookbook for kids to develop healthy food choices now and hopefully into the future.
• Make Milk, Not War — Tamara at Tea for Three remembers the daily food fights as she struggled to feed a picky eater.
• teaching baby birds about good food. — Sarah at Small Bird on Fire writes about the ways in which her family chooses to gently teach their son how to make wise food decisions.
• 5 Ways to Enhance Your Baby or Young Toddler's Relationship with Food — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama shares simple ways to give your child a healthy beginning to her lifelong relationship with food.
• Toddler at the Table: 10 Creative Solutions — Moorea at Mamalady shares tips for preventing meal-time power struggles.
• How My Child Takes Responsibility During His Mealtime... — Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy shares how she teaches and encourages her 32 months old son on adopting good manners and responsibilities during his mealtimes...
• Kids in the Kitchen: 6 Tips Plus a Recipe — Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings shares six tips for overcoming some of the the difficulties of cooking with multiple young sous chefs, and a recipe they all can agree on!
• How BLW has made me a better parent — Zoe at Mummykins shares how baby-led weaning has changed her approach to parenting.
• My Budding Chef — Jenny at Chronicles of a Nursing Mom is no cook but is happy that her daughter has shown an inclination and manages to whip up yummy goodies for their family.
• Kids in the Kitchen: An Activity for Every Age — Gaby from Tmuffin describes how she keeps her kids busy in the kitchen, whether they are one week old or two years old.
• The Phantastically Mutlipurposed Phyllo — Ana at Pandamoly shares how Phyllo is used to create enticing dishes at home! Anything can be made into a Struedel!
• Kitchen Kids — Laura from A Pug in the Kitchen shares her children's most favorite recipe to make, experience and eat.
• Independence vs. Connection in the Kitchen: won't you please get yourself your own snack already? — Lisa at Organic Baby Atlanta wishes her daughter would just go make a mess in the kitchen. But her daughter only wants to do it together.
• Grandma Rose's Kitchen — Abbie at Farmer's Daughter reminisces about her childhood and dreams of filling her kitchen with people, love, noise, and messes.
• Healthy Food Choices for Kids — Jorje offers one way to encourage children to make their own healthy food choices at MommaJorje.com.
• Cooking food to thrive rather than survive — Phoebe at Little Tinker Tales is trying to foster a lifetime of good food habits by teaching her children about the importance of avoiding junk, cooking healthy meals, and learning about the whole food process.
• Evolution of a self-led eater — Sheila at A Gift Universe shares the story of how her son grew from nursing around the clock to eating everything in sight, without her having to push.
• 10 Ways Tiny Helps In The Kitchen — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama explores the ways in which her toddler actively participates in kitchen-related activities.
• The Complexity of Feeding a Child — Feeding children a healthy diet is no straight-forward task, but Lisa at My World Edenwild shares some general guidelines to help your child thrive.
• Lactation Cookies — That Mama Gretchen shares a fun recipe that will benefit both mamas and babies!
• 50 of the Best Books, Websites, & Resources to Inspire Kids in the Kitchen — Need inspiration to get your kids in the kitchen? Dionna at Code Name: Mama rounds up some of the best books and websites that can serve as a source for ideas, recipes, and cooking with littles fun.
• A 4-year-old's smoothie recipe — Jen at Grow With Graces and her son set out to make a smoothie without the usual ingredients. She let him improvise. See how it turned out.
• Independent Food Preparation (My Toddler Can Do That?) — Megan at Montessori Moments shares simple ways for children to prepare their own healthy snacks.
• Follow Your Gut — Amy at Anktangle shares her philosophy about intuitive eating, and how she's trying to foster her son's trust in his own inner wisdom when he feels hungry.
• A TODDLER-STYLE LUNCH + RECIPE — Manic Mrs. Stone photographs how to have messy fun during lunchtime with a helpful toddler.

Everybody Loves a Ride

Babywearing is one of the things that has made my parenting life so much easier and more pleasant.  We started off with a pouch style sling when Bean was a baby.  From about 6 weeks on she lived in the pouch and loved it!

She hung out in the warmth from my body and soaked up my smell.  She nursed.  And since she (and I) had a tendency to panic when we weren't together, the pouch gave me my hands to do important things, like feed myself, while keeping her close.

Yet, the Bean is the only one of my babies who has been fond of our pouch.  I still have it.  I've tried it at different stages with each baby.  But she is the only one who has been truly happy in it.  Perhaps because she was so small.  When she was about three months old, she outgrew the pouch, and we moved on to ring slings.  Yes, plural.  I seem to have a thing for ring slings.

Above, the Bean with her first illness, cuddled in a heavy corduroy and flannel ring sling.  Below, the Bean at her first Easter in blue and white polka dot cotton ring sling.

Below, the Bug on his birthday in a cotton ring sling.  He did not like carriers much between about 6 weeks and 9 months, so there aren't many pictures of him in them.

Even Daddy wore the kids sometimes!

We tried out the mei tai a few times, but no one really loved it.

Then we got an Ergo, which we all loved!  However, I can't find a single picture of any of us in it.  However, it was truly worth the investment, and we used it tons.  I sometimes used the Ergo as a front pack with the Bean on my back as well.

Then I've got my water pouch, which I love and don't use nearly as much as I wish I did.  It seems we don't do a lot of swimming.

And for our new addition, I couldn't resist just 1 more carrier!  So, we tried out a wrap.  Oh, my, this is my favorite ever!

The wrap is my truly hands free option.  It helps me to get done what I need to get done in a day with 3 little ones.  It keeps Squeaker happy hanging out snugly.  In fact, he gets so excited when he sees me get it out that he waves his little arms and legs and coos and laughs.  He loves it, as the Bug would say.  And so do we all.  Even my mom commented to someone one time while waiting for me to wrap him up, "It takes a while to get him in there, but it really is the best way to carry a baby."  Proof that everybody loves a ride!

Putting the Year to Bed

With Halloween past, I am looking forward towards winter, and all that goes with it.  This stretch between mid-autumn and winter always feels to me like we are putting the year to bed.  The harvest is done.  We do the last of the yard work for the year.  We put away the children's outdoor toys, and move the climber to the basement for letting off steam in the cold.  We begin to haul firewood up to the house for lighting a fire first thing in the chilly mornings.  We gather our leaves, acorns, walnuts, pinecones and other nature items for play and crafts.  We put on our flannels and sweaters and clothing that envelops us in warm hugs.  And we venture into the darker months.

As it grows colder, the children will not want to spend so much time out of doors, and we will move to more indoor activities.  We will read more, draw more, bake more, craft more and snuggle more.  We will prepare for the upcoming holidays and make gifts for our loved ones.  And we will draw closer to one another.

The year is putting on her colorful pajamas.  Soon she will be covered in a blanket of snow, sleeping peacefully until spring.